Redefine what calm feels like in your body, not someone else’s.
When this might help:
Other people’s calm doesn’t fit and you want your own
You’re resetting expectations after comparing yourself
The practice:
“Calm used to mean ______.”
“Now, it feels like ______.”
“I feel closest to calm when I _______.”
Gentle fallback: One sentence is enough: “Now, calm feels like ___.”
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Come back to this whenever you need it. Returning is the practice.