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Meaningful Support
Co-Regulation Language Builder
Name your needs in body-honouring, connection-centred ways.
When this might help:
The practice:
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“Could you stay with me without fixing?”
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“I don’t need advice, just a quiet presence.”
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“Can I check in when I’m ready instead of now?”
Gentle fallback: You could borrow a phrase from the list word for word. Your own words can come later.
Keep it with you:
print this tool as a card (PDF).
Audio guide: arriving with the book's launch.
Come back to this whenever you need it. Returning is the practice.